my girlfriend doesn't like hypermiling

[douglas001001]

I picked up my gf from the airport last night and with the kennedy expressway clogged with traffic I had an reason to take surface streets. So I glide as much as possible the whole way back and get all the bars above 75+ except for one when I had two completely wasted pulses (*!#$ stoplights).

We pick up some stuff at her place after taking 30 minutes to get back (it would've taken about the same on the expressway) then she gets in The Submarine and says: "I don't like this hypermiling, it makes me edgy".

So I explain how I've never been in an accident, safe driver, etc etc there is not much to worry about.. plus it is our duty to minimize our footprint.. etc etc.. and I get the "didn't you just listen to what I said look"

Has anyone else had this problem? Please help!

[Proco]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(douglas001001 @ Jun 6 2007, 04:38 PM) [snapback]456799[/snapback]</div>

I picked up my gf from the airport last night and with the kennedy expressway clogged with traffic I had an reason to take surface streets. So I glide as much as possible the whole way back and get all the bars above 75+ except for one when I had two completely wasted pulses (*!#$ stoplights).

We pick up some stuff at her place after taking 30 minutes to get back (it would've taken about the same on the expressway) then she gets in The Submarine and says: "I don't like this hypermiling, it makes me edgy".

So I explain how I've never been in an accident, safe driver, etc etc there is not much to worry about.. plus it is our duty to minimize our footprint.. etc etc.. and I get the "didn't you just listen to what I said look"

Has anyone else had this problem? Please help![/b]

The question you have to ask yourself is whether or not she's more important or the hypermiling is. That will give you your solution.

If she's more important (and, let's be honest, she should be), if it makes her edgy, it doesn't matter what your reasons are for doing it. It will still make her edgy. I'd suggest you don't hypermile when you're both in the car. Did you ask her why it makes her edgy? Or did you just defend hypermiling. If you didn't ask her why she feels edgy, she's got a legitimate beef. She told you she was uncomfortable and you gave 100 reasons why she shouldn't be. Find out why she feels that way ... but in a non-confrontational way.

[KProspero]

IMO my wife is uses the brake way too much when approaching a stop light, and drives a little too close to the car in front of her. However, in the 25 years we've been married, she's been in only one accident, so I have to admit she's a safe driver.

That doesn't mean I don't feel a bit nervous when I see the red light coming up. I just keep my mouth shut because, as I've said, 25 years is a good track record.

Here's what I'm getting at, your GF is nervous when you hypermile it, she may always be nervous when you do this. Your being a safe driver probably won't make her less nervous. So, here are the options: (1) you change your driving habits, (2) she keeps quiet and learns to deal with it or (3) you get a new girlfriend.

I'd recommend (1) but that's just me.

[SomervillePrius]

I day dump her! j/k :-)

I try to limit my hypermiling when I have passengers even if I glide more towards red lights then they are used to and use pulse to get up to speed. The difference is that I use more battery in the glide part (for as long as I can) which makes the slowing down less noticeable. I also tend to vary between 40 and 35 instead of 40 and 30.

[Tom6850]

Take the hint, she is just in a hurry to be with you alone.

[morpheusx]

I don't like pulse and glide even when I'm driving, but I do like to do long 1/2 mile to 1 mile glides before stoplights and I glide down every hill. But yeah if you want to keep her I would turn off the MFD and concentrate on her.

[pyccku]

Is she paying for your gas, or are you?

What specifically makes her edgy? If it takes the same amount of time to get there, why would it matter? Are you drafting semis on the way, or is she just irked that you might be going the speed limit (or under) and taking a more leisurely approach to driving?

[douglas001001]

I did ask why she felt edgy.. answer was it seems like its taking longer and that something is going on that she can't participate in.

Oh, perhaps the flipping the mfd makes her think that I'm not paying attention to the road, I'll try next time with the mfd off and see how that goes.

Thanks PriusChat friends!

[kdk84]

I agree with a one of the above posts... giver her another shot at dealing with it, if she doesn't like it still, dump her. haha

[ystasino]

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Take the hint, she is just in a hurry to be with you alone.
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I agree, women make fuss when they want to be with you alone. Often it's like pressure building up for them and they don't want to admit it.

Take her on a quiet road and make a move on her, not too overtly. A few minutes later (depending on how good the pump and the bladder are) she will be fulfilled and no longer edgy.

And don't turn the power off you don't want to have that engine recycling allover again.