Tossed in the towel...

Awe, don't feel bad! If it wasn't meant to be, It wasn't meant to be. Move on and enjoy life! You'll find someone when you least expect to.

 

If I may put forward a slice of personal philosophy ... *

... , well, my wife's actually, it's that people form relationships of all kinds because they fulfill a mutual need. But people change and their lives change, so their needs change and therefore relationships change and people move in and out of each others lives. It can be disappointing for one or both parties as they separate, but ultimately you shouldn't feel wronged or defeated because the relationship ended and similarly you shouldn't try to make a relationship be something it isn't.. Just keep trying to find new and better relationships and hope the better ones last.

When she told me we were discussing other people. I hope there wasn't a hidden message in there.

* While dangerous its 5% fatality rate is far too low to be a fitting successor to a long-lived, tool-using ape with advanced cognitive abilities.

 

Find a good Bible-preaching church... there will be a good, worthwhile catch there.

 

Ironically, that's probably the best strategy. People who are actively 'looking' often give off an air of desperation - which is not attractive. Relax, be yourself....and forget about it. Only then will that little bluebird alight on your shoulders.

And I'd say stay the hell away from bible-preaching churches, but we all have our own preferences.

 

From a male perspective, I certainly hope no failed relationship in my past has ever been described as a "Pop and Fizzle".

But good luck...and you are right, relationships and the building of relationships are work. But don't give up, you know what they say.....it's a job and an adventure.

 

No no, I didn't say one of those types of things... just a church that preaches the Good News. Don't mind Hyo, he's got a chip on his shoulders.

 

I would really like to hear about those sometime.

 

Yep, I know what you mean. I also keep in touch with God 2x/ day. It does not hurt, and provides me with a calming feeling. Take your time and keep moving forward with your life. Somtimes we try too hard to find that somebody to share our life with. You could find it thru music, hobby, volunteer work, work, anywhere your interests lie. Try not to be hard on yourself, be gentle with yourself.
Enjoy life, laugh like crazy, and give yourself all the praise you need. Spend time with yourself, with famiy and friends.

DBCassidy

 

The guy did you a favor with a breakup text. Imagine wasting more time with a someone that would do such a cowardly thing. Oh wait, you don't have to. I can tell you about my wife's friend. Her fiance broke off the engagement through a text. The reason was that she didn't agree to his mom's last minute ultamatum changes for the wedding. She didn't think he would act on it. While she may be devastated losing a boyfriend of many years, I shudder to think whats it is like to be married to a person still attached to the umbilical cord to their mother.

 

sorry, didn't mean to leave you hanging... so, we are talking about the God if the Holy Bible right? I too often assume that.

 

You will find someone when you least expect it - that's the beauty of how life works sometimes!

 

"That way, if it doesn't work out he'll be a mile away and you'll still have the moccasins."