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My friends' kid is a vegetarian...

Discussion in 'Fred's House of Pancakes' started by burritos, Sep 3, 2008.

  1. burritos

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    So we were at a local pizza parlor and my friends asked if we could order cheese pizza for their 5 year old kid. My friends are hearty meat eaters, but at the age of four their kid on her own had decided to become a vegetarian. The conversation of the actual epiphany went something like this,

    "Sarah, eat your bacon, it's good for you"
    "Mom, where does bacon come from?"
    "Sarah, bacon comes pigs"
    "Mom, people eat pigs?"
    "Yup, people eat pigs Sarah"
    "Not good people."
     
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    My nephew started out like that. Then he discovered that bacon was rather tasty, so he made an exception. Hot dogs turned out to be good too, so another exception. He's a full fledged omnivore now.

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    A bit odd at age 5. While not a terrible thing if handled properly a child that age really must be forced to eat an appropriate diet and getting all essential amino acids at that age is especially critical and difficult as often children that age are not big fans of beans and/or rice and it's tough to supply those at every meal.

    One must also wonder where the brainwashing came from that would allow a child that age to believe that only 'bad people' would eat a pig or other animal.
     
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    Good point, Evan. Like the old saying goes: "If we aren't supposed to eat animals, then why are they made out of meat?"

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    Both of my children went through a period around that age where they didn't like meat. Not sure if it was a texture thing, the taste, or for some reason their bodies didn't want it. It lasted about six months or so but then we were able to turn them into the barbecue loving freaks they are today ;-)
     
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    There are a whole lot of people who have successfully raised children that don't eat animals, without any ill effects to their health.

    An amazing number of children will make that connection themselves, between "meat" and animals, and that we should be kind to animals. Children recognize that animals have personality, feelings, and value as living things.

    I think the "brainwashing" comes later, when somehow people are convinced that treating sentient beings as factory-produced foodstuffs is 'normal'.
     
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    Good point, Rae. While I can't claim the moral high ground of being a vegetarian myself, I'm at least somewhat supportive. I think if 'field trips' to a packing or rendering plant were part of our education, we'd ALL be vegetarians.
     
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    Certainly, and I addressed that point. But it is not easy. Many children who've neglected adequate protein in their diet have also become quite ill, had neurologic and other growth related problems due to inadequate diet...the vegetarian community doesn't like to talk about those though. What I said is it isn't easy. You can't just throw green beans and apple sauce in front of a kid and expect them to grow strong and healthy to their potential.
    As long as the child's vegetarian diet is monitored and supported by the parents to ensure adequate nutrition I'm fine with it and do believe the kids can reach full potential. In the case of the parents in the OP it seems they are not vegetarian (since they encouraged the kid to eat some 'good for you' bacon) and may not be aware of the potential consequences of a vegetarian diet that fails to provide all essential amino acids or how to ensure the child gets them.

    Making the connection that eating animals that are living things isn't something they want to do, yes. But translating that to "good people" don't eat animals is something else entirely...esp. when the child's parents (I would assume the 'goodest' people in the child's life) eat them is not normal or age appropriate without being influenced.

    Guess we know where you stand on the issue.
     
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    A healthy balanced diet can't be underscored enough. Friends of ours have two sons. One son has refused to eat vegetables since Day 1, and has been permitted to not eat them. Since his grandparents are vegetarians and take care of him a large amount of the time, his diet is reduced to simple starches, tomato sauce and cheese. When he's not with the grandparents, his mother feeds him McD's, CostCo pizza, etc. The kid is overweight (moderately, not excessively) and not as active as he should be.

    At age 11, he just recently entered a huge growth spurt, was having increasing back and shoulder pain and went to the doctor. Diagnosis: Scoliosis.

    Surprised? Not really.
     
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    Well, burritos, you sure know how to come up with the divisive issues, don't you? :fencing:
     
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    I think that's a great point, and likely a bigger problem....getting kids to eat adequate veggies. Fortunately there are many my kids like...though they won't, generally, touch raw veggies.

    The point is no matter the tastes and preferences of the child the responsible parent must ensure their kids are getting adequate nutrition some way.
     
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    I occasionally eat meat(both my wife and kid are omnivores). I thought that my friends' kid had a lot of insight for someone so young. Of course as other posters have mentioned, she certainly could grow out of it?

    This statement is bizarre. What if you changed the statement to:
    kill animals for fun or profit." Would you judge that to be brainwashing? Perhaps she just has a different standard of what's right and wrong and developed this moral compass all by herself. Isn't that possible? Why does this behavior have to be a result of "brainwashing?" Firstly, her sister and parents aren't vegetarian. I think the brainwashing is more likely to occur the other way to convince people to eat meat. Look at the commercials that bombard our kids. Even the government drills into us the proper "food groups" that need to be eaten to be "healthy". Americans are the least healthy western society people in the world.

    Secondly, why can't a child just love animals(not a crazy notion, ask the dog, cat, horse lovers on this board) and see that they don't want harm to come to animals just to feed her?
     
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    My favorite example of a vegetarian is Scott Jurek.

    Scott won the Western States 100 mile footrace at least a half dozen times. That's from Squaw Valley to Auburn in the Sierra Nevada mountains. He's also won the Badwater Ultramarathon. It's from the bottom of Death Valley to Mount Whitney. In July :eek:.

    Scott is actually vegan (no dairy/eggs). Among the reasons that he eats that way is that it helps him to recover from such extreme events. And it certainly doesn't hinder his performance.

    An interesting aspect of his performance is that other people can beat him in races shorter than about 80 miles. Above that, and he just runs away from them while they crumble. Clean fuel works better.

    There is an interesting interview with Scott at EliteRunning.com | Interview with Scott Jurek
     
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    They can, but I can tell you that the jump to the people eating the animals being 'bad' is not one a 5 year old typically makes. Perhaps this is an exceptional child and I'm being judgemental. But my kids are fairly bright and while they love animals and get a little sad when you explain that their burger is from a cow and ask why we eat animals never have they reached a conclusion that mommy and daddy are 'bad' for eating a pulled pork sandwich. I like to think my kids are pretty bright and insightful and when they've expressed opinions similar to the one in the OP it's always been traceable to something they were told by someone else.

    They go to a church daycare, for instance, and have learned that people who don't believe in Jesus will not go to heaven. I discovered this when one day they asked me what would happen when I died since I couldn't go to heaven. They knew all along I didn't believe in God, but it took someone frightening them of terrible consequences before they made any artificial connections with the consequences of that belief.
     
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    I know it's nitpicking, but she didn't call anyone bad, she just said good people don't eat meat. Since all her other family members are meat eaters, I don't know where someone might have fed her this line of thinking. Maybe there are PETA operatives in her daycare. They are well funded. As for being exceptional, I don't know, but both parents are PhD electrical engineers who both work on lockheed secret government weapons systems.
     
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    On a side, almost related note, if you want to talk about dealing with the eating habits of children, the best thing is just let them be.

    The less of an issue you make food choices, the less problems you will have.
    Yes, some weeks all they will eat is peanut butter. Others, it will be strawberries, or corn, or yogurt. So what.
    If you make food a battleground, it will become an issue in that little person's life, for their whole life.
    Let them make choices. Those choices will change. Be sure to offer choices (don't just have peanut butter, for example), but let them know that they can decide for themselves what they are hungry for, and how hungry they are.

    Yes, parents SHOULD make sure that there is a variety of only healthy foods available to choose from. No, an occasional hot dog won't kill you (well... maybe. I won't eat one), but if you make an issue of it, you've created a problem.
     
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    That's true...but I will tell you that in the real world there are people who let their kids eat nothing but chicken nuggets...I've seen them, I've taken care of them...and it's unbelievable.
     
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    Or like the cannibals said in the old Flanders & Swan song, trying to convince the reluctant cannibal who felt that eating people was wrong:

    "If the good lord had not meant us to eat people, he wouldn't have made us of meat."

    I was 19 when I decided that it was morally unjustifiable to kill animals for food in a society where a healthy vegetarian diet is readily available. "Morally unjustifiable" is the atheist equivalent of "sinful." It was not until I was in my early 40's that I began to recognize that good people sometimes do evil things and it was not my place to put labels like "bad" or "evil" on people. Now I limit myself to labeling the actions as "cruel." I think it would be hard to argue that killing animals for food is not cruel. There are places and times when one must be cruel to survive, where hunting is the only way to eat. But in a modern industrial society, the cruelty is unnecessary.

    You have a perfect right to eat meat. But it is unnecessarily cruel.

    I am surprised that a 5-year-old was precocious enough to come to the conclusions she did, but I applaud her. Her parents may succeed in turning her. Parents have a lot of power over their kids, and it is the very rare kid who has the strength of character to continue doing what she believes is right in the face of strong parental opposition. I wish her the best of luck.

    And I agree that a balanced diet is necessary to good health. But rather than insisting she must eat meat, a more caring route would be to teach her what a balanced vegetarian diet consists of. And if she is comfortable eating dairy products, then amino acids are not an issue, nor is B-12.

    Many Hindus are vegetarians, and those that have enough money to buy sufficient food are perfectly healthy. Meat is not necessary to the health of a growing child. A much bigger problem in the U.S. is the obesity epidemic, caused by a diet too high in meat and fat, as well as lack of exercise.