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Discussion in 'Fred's House of Pancakes' started by Dave_PH, Jun 25, 2009.

  1. bevspark

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    Yes thats a good idea Pat. I think everyone could write a book about their Mother in laws.
     
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    patsparks An Aussie perspective

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    Careful girlie, I'm a bit close to your mother in law!
     
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    My point exactly, boy.

    I love your Mother don't I?
     
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    That's not Mia, it from the intertubes but looks like an older version of her.
     
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    I picked up Mia, a 4 month old Siamese yesterday and she's now in my guest room being isolated from Fay. Mia was a doll when I met her in her cage at my Vet's. Rubbing all over me and purring but she's been frightened and trying to hide since I got her home.

    When I got home with her Mia Fay was asleep and slow to be on me so I got Mia into her room without being noticed. Mia wouldn't come out of the carrier so I had to take the top off and when I did she was off like a shot into the closet to hide behind some clothes. I've never seen such a fast fluid cat. When I left the room Fay was waiting at the door but I only opened it part way and Fay showed no interest and followed me down the hall.

    On my next visit to Mia she was under the bed but my Vet had warned me not to let that go on or she might hide and not eat. I couldn't get close to her so we just slow blinked at each other for a while and I left her for a few hours.

    On my next visit she was still under the bed so I took it apart moving the mattress and two box springs to the hallway. Mia hid behind some curtains. I had closed the hallway door to the south part of the 'estate [​IMG]' so Fay wasn't around. That's something I don't want to do because Fay's litter boxes are at the far end of that hall. I went in and picked up Mia ad gave her a pet. She eventual noticed we were next o and window and decided to crawl to the windowsill. She’s fascinated with the rain hitting the pool outside. After a few minutes I took her down and she went back to hiding behind the curtains. I don't want to pick her up much because she still has her spay stitches in.

    On the yet next visit Mia was still hiding under the curtains so I picked her up and put her in my lap, she relaxed purred and looked up at me but left after a few minutes and stayed farther away watching me. When I left it happened. Fay was at the door and partway in so I picked her up. Fay is such a sweet social cat I decided to let her see Mia from my arms. Mia approached meowing. It took me a second to realize Fay was very quietly hissing so we got away from there fast. All last night Fay had an eye on the hallway and for a long time her ears were different, not back but more tense and her pupils were wide. She wandered around her family room meowing a lot. When we went to bed she spent a long time in my bedroom doorway on watch. She’s definitely scared.

    When Fay and I got up this morning and I was making coffee I noticed Fay missing, pretty unusual in my morning routine. I checked and she was down the hall sniffing under Mia’s door. A few minutes later as I sat down to write this Fay had returned to her normal station behind my chair but again her ears are a little tense and she’s watching the south hallway door intently . I think she’s protecting me from the intruder.

    I’m making sure Fay gets plenty of attention and I’ll go visit Mia in a bit to see if she’s eaten yet. She has at least left foot and scratch prints in her litter box.
     
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    Liliac Point Siamese pic from Wikipaedia. That's also where I got the name that all my friends like best and it looks like it's stuck.


    It is often said that the breed was first seen outside their Asian home in 1884, when the British Counsul-General in Bangkok brought a breeding pair of the cats, Pho and Mia, back to Britain as a gift for his sister, Lilian Jane Veley (Veley went on to co-found the Siamese Cat Club in 1901). However, in 1878, .... received "Siam", a gift from the American Consul in Bangkok; this cat was also the first documented Siamese to reach the United States, and predates the Siamese's arrival to the UK by 6 years


    [​IMG]
     
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    Not a joke.

    Mothers-in-law have a reputation for being nasty, but step-mothers actually have power over you, and mine dedicated her life to making everyone around her thoroughly miserable. In an extreme you can divorce your spouse to dump a mother-in-law, but a child has no rights against a step-mother. The court had said I had to spend alternate weekends at my dad's house, and I had no legal recourse.

    I spent six months in federal prison, and I tell you that those weekends in my step-mother's house were far, far worse!

    Sometimes cats learn to live together peaceably. Sometimes not. Dogs will be protective of an owner, and are naturally social animals, forming packs and following the lead dog (who is the owner, if he/she knows how to establish authority). But cats are not social animals and are very territorial. Fay is not protecting you. Fay is guarding her territory. She regards you as her property (I'm not joking here) and does not want the intruder to challenge her ownership.

    I once allowed a stray in. Obviously an abandoned house cat, since the feral cats never came close. After a month of living in the utility room & basement Leonardo still would not permit her into the house proper, and I gave her to a farmer who liked having yard cats to keep the rats under control.
     
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    That's what I meant by protecting me. I know Fay owns me and has put a lot of effort into my training. I'm giving Fay plenty of loving and play time so she's not threatened.

    It may take a long time but they're both social cats and Fay is older, bigger, a ground cat and athletically challenged but far from violent while Mia is very fast and a heights cat. I know Fay misses her littermate Abby and liked Peg the 3 legged cat up the street so I think they'll eventually be friends. If not, I'm required to return Mia to my Vet.
     
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    My morning visit to Mia went great. She was up on a windowsill 4+ feet off the ground hiding behind some drapes but I got a great greeting. She was shaking at first but relaxed when I touched her and started rubbing against me and purring. She's skin an bones. Definiyely a rescuse frpm a bad breeder.

    When I moved Mia came over too me for more contact and loud purring. Her tail is flying like a flag. I don't know if Mia has eaten yet but she's definitely used the litter box. Fay had no interest in going outside on a wet pool deck last night. The area pool is enclosed.

    When the pool deck dries out I'll distract Fay with a pool deck safari and go see Mia again.

    Fay is still nervous, looking at that hallway so I'm giving her plenty of love too.
     
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    You do Bev, you do.:D
     
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    I was trying to make light of the situation. I probably would have stuffed her into a barrel

    When I found Doc as a kitten, BooBoo was around 7 years old. I was worried there would be a lot of hissing and growling on his part, but as soon as I plopped the kitten down on the bed next to BooBoo, he immediately bonded with it. Even started grooming Doc

    They play together, eat together, sleep together. Overall that turned out very well
     
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    It'll take time. Fay misses her littermate Abby, she's told me so.

    My Vet just called. I've been instructed to spend more time with Mia and to cook her some chicken breasts 'cause she loves that and I need to be sure she eats. Also, not to let her into the main house because a human can never cach a colorpoint Siamese. She also suggested I sleep with Mia tonight but that would devestate Fay. Fay is in her bed headed for her afternoon nap. When she conks out I'll spend some quality time with Mia.

    Mia is just over a year old. Born 4/2/2008. Was confiscated from a breeder and probably spent most of her time in a cage because she hadn't been fixed.
     
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    Her son, my step-brother, tried to kill her, but sadly, he failed. He spent some time in jail for that, and afterwards was prohibited from attempting to contact any member of the family. He has not strictly complied, but he mostly has.

    If she uses the litter box again, she's been eating.
     
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    If a person is going to all that trouble, they might as well do it right the first time

    So, who wants to see more cat photos?
     
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    Look, BooBoo up close

    [​IMG]
     
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    BooBoo's face is almost the same as my cat Sox.
     
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    Nice redirection Jayman
     
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    I have a theory about step-mothers, which I developed after watching the interactions between a friend of mine and her step-son. The theory does not apply to my step-mother, who was pure evil, but in general I think it applies, and it certainly applied to my friend:

    Every woman who is not psychotic (my step-mother was psychotic) wants what is "best" or "right" for her child or step-child. And of course the books are full of "information" about how children should be raised. The problem is that all that "information" is crap. So every well-meaning woman tries to follow all the advice. Now here is where mothers and step-mothers diverge:

    When the advice begins to actually damage the child (as it always will) and the child is obviously suffering, the mother will say, "I know I should continue to follow the advice, because the experts know what they are talking about, but I cannot bear to see my child suffer so. I am a bad mother, but I will not follow the advice any longer." She stops following the crap advice, and her child recovers, and if other environmental circumstances do not prevent it, the child can develop into a healthy adult.

    But the step-mother says, "I see that my step-child appears to be suffering, but by damn I'm going to do what's right for him if it kills him. The experts know what they're talking about, and if this kid won't follow the program I'll damn well make him, for his own good!" And as a result the step-child turns into a sick, twisted adult who becomes a cop who beats up teenagers on the street for the pure enjoyment of it, or becomes a judge and fills the jails with innocent people because he figures that other people have it too soft because they didn't have his step-mother.

    The cat remote control needs to have a button for "kill step-mother."