What Do Women Think of Men Driving Priuses?

I was running some errands on my lunch hour today and saw an attractive (as best I could tell from a moderate distance) woman in a red Prius stopped at a light opposite me across the intersection, so I starts wavin' like the village idiot, thinking "Hey, lookee here, we're Prius buddies!!!", got a kind of bewildered/blank stare in return, and it was only then that I realized that I was driving my Tacoma. Jeebus. But maybe I will order a couple of those priuschat decals, one for the Prius and the other one to put on the Tacoma. I feel way more comfortable and 'at home' on this site than I do on the Tacoma site, although those guys are fine, just a different breed in general from this crew. I use a picture of my Prius for my avatar over there, and a pic of the Taco for the same purpose here.

 

Clean Prius + + PriusChat.com decal + 1 baby/toddler + Rhodesian Ridgeback puppy = :smokin::mad2:

 

sssssssizzzlin'! Women will be powerless to that recipe...:help:

 

Alright, I have to add my own $.02. First of all, Saminjax you should write books. I am NOT kidding. You state some obivious (and not so obvious) truths about dating, confidence, and the human condition. And you do it sweetly. Daniel, listen to saminjax and all the others replying to your post. I have been alternately chuckling and sighing while reading this thread. Confidence is ALL important. I know it sounds like something from a self-help book, but it is true. If you accept yourself as a good and caring person, someone with good qualities and attributes, love who you are! Okay, about the cars: In high school I drove an old Toyota pickup that was green with red and gray primer. It rattled and made all sorts of noises. I thought it was the coolest ride around because I had paid for it with my own money. I gave a girl aride in it and she asked me why it was so many colors. I just laughed because I knwew that she didn't "get" what a cool ride it was. I have a VW bus that was also multicolored and it never kept the women away. Think of yourself as that "cool ride". The car DOES NOT MATTER. I am a 49 year-old fireman and I constantly have to fend off jibes of my co-workers about the Prius. Just as when I was a kid, I laugh at them. They all drive big giant trucks (compensating for something?) and really don't get that my Prius is the coolest car I have ever driven. I f#ckin' love that car. Let them think what they want. Alright, I've drifted off the topic...
I think that the times I have met women have usually been the times I was finished with looking. I'd had it with dating and just figured I would enjoy myself as a single man. (I know what you are thinking, shame on you!) Like saminjax says, try to be comfortable being you. Do you exercise? That is a great way to gain confidence and look good. Let me finish the same way I started. Listen to saminjax. She is really right on with many great ideas. Good luck to you and your bad-nice person Prius.

 

So, just to answer the question:

As a singleton, I think men driving Prii already have a tick in the "win" column for me.

They may have other ticks in the "lose" column, but the fact that they are either 1) environmentally conscious, or 2) economically responsible, or 3) trying to ease dependence on foreign oil, or 4) like cool technology certainly gives them the edge...

 

Hey, the latest thing is get rid of that bloody check list you have in your head, it is bad news.

 

I LOVE my Prius, too. It is the most amazing, efficient, technological car I've ever had. It is the coolest thing I've ever purchased and I'm proud to own it (or owe on it, rather) and drive it. I'm hooked.

Thanks for the compliments, Montenido. I am, in no way, any kind of self-help guru...farrr from it (almost as far from it as *&*#% Dr. Laura). I just spoke from my own experiences, a fondness for Daniel, and relating to that type of heartache.

Again, dating SUCKS. I'd rather eat my own hand than start that crap again... I think I'll just become an Energizer battery stockholder if my boyfriend and I ever break up. No more "What kind of music do you listen to?" or "I'll have salad..." or "What do you do for a living?" And thoughts that go through your head, like "why won't he take that toothpick out of his mouth? Is he going to eat dinner with it in his mouth???" "Maybe I can pretend to go to the bathroom and hail a cab..." or "If he doesn't quit talking about his ex, I'm going to stab myself..." Ugh!

Sorry, off topic again. Umm...girls who date guys for their cars are flakes!

 

You go Samin! Girls that date guys are flakes, fakes ...and temporary.

 

Oh man, I knew I should have read this thread a couple days ago! By the headline I thought it would be worthless shallow stuff, but there's some real topics in here too. This is the part with the most point to it, not pointless at all.

Daniel, if you're listening, I have to disagree with some of the optimistic posters here, giving some nice platitudes. It is your fault. Well, maybe not fault, that's a strong word, but it is your personality. Not appearance, I'm sure we all know a person or two shaped like a bowling ball but still gets dates/LTRs. It's obviously not money if the price tag of a Tesla isn't what's keeping you from buying one. Not really clothes either, as long you don't look like a slob. (One of the first things my wife-to-be did when we were dating was to buy me some new 'work' clothes - hey I'm a frugal engineer, enough said). She also met me when I was driving an 8-yr-old bare-bones Nissan Sentra E. Although shortly after I upgraded to a 4-yr-old Nissan Sentra SE-R with sports suspension and sunroof, very nice car. 140 HP in a light car with stick shift. But I digress.

People have said I'm a good-looking and intelligent guy, with a decent career, and I really hate to admit it, but I was a virgin until 27. Not even first base (I've never admitted that to anyone before). Only a couple actual dates, which were cordial at best. But I also totally missed girls/women around me that were interested in me until much after the fact (I was pretty clueless and they were too shy or followed protocol). I was painfully shy growing up (might've been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome today?), and it took a long time to become more confident and outgoing. I could always chat with people one-on-one (not in the rare party setting, there I was mostly silent) but would go dumb if I tried to make the conversation even resemble something romantic. With confidence comes a certain charisma, I don't think you can have charisma without confidence. Because you're blaming your appearance for the lack of success, I think there is a definite confidence issue. If you think back to a situation where you know you made a favorable impression, it was probably when you were enthusiastic about what you were talking about, which gives you confidence or at least the appearance of it.

But back to your other problem - you are idealistic, which is a good thing for some situations, but not for fitting in with people. I think women might respect your beliefs, but they would probably feel uncomfortable about introducing you to their friends, with their various values. Friendship is about accepting decent people despite their occasional flaws, and I think for you some common flaws are unacceptable. Women wouldn't want to run the risk of giving up their old friends, or be estranged from family because you might find them unacceptable. That's my thought anyway. You're actually intimidating them. Your only hope is really with someone with the same commitment to the same ideology. Or to put all that aside for short-term relationships, but I don't think that's in your personality. You're too much like me I think, and I wouldn't do that.
(But it definitely would give you confidence to get that next date. The catch-22 is that having an actual relationship is the best fix for trouble finding relationships.)

But there are advantages to this. You can afford to spend money on things important to you, not on diapers, a bigger house, a station wagon/minivan, college tuition. You can do your own hobbies. I did a lot of work on my genealogy in my single, non-dating years, people asked how I found the time for it. I realize now those questions came from people with families or were dating, because I haven't seriously worked on genealogy for years. Or extended my juggling abilities, or fixed up an old volksie, gone rock-climbing, etc. I miss that, but still it's been worthwhile.

I had a couple nice gentle uncles who never got married, and I always thought I would end up like them, I was genuinely surprised to find myself proposing.

Okay, I can be quiet now.

 

The first part is not true. You might have a bulldog type appearance, but it's not ugly, by any means. Plus you drive a motorcycle, that's gotta count for quite a bit in the chick-magnet category.

I agree with the second part, but hey, it makes things fun in this too-politically correct world

 

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[...that's the sound of g feeling very relieved that she found DH before TOO much dating nonsense. wow.]

if i had to start over seeking out a mate tomorrow, i'd be at a complete and total loss. i know a lot of egotistical a-holes who don't know a thing about women but pretend they do... [hmm, a few of them do that with science too]. science guys in general really do not excite me anyway. i don't socialize much outside the grad-school circle so i think i would probably remain single instead of settling for what i'm not really into. i did that once when i was younger and stupider and it ended, uh, poorly.

i don't think it means there's anything wrong, other than you haven't found the right person.

 

Excellent post, Nerfer.

 

I respect you right to be wrong in the first part of your post. It matters not now, I have signed up a woman for the lifetime contract so I'm also off the meet market. If I can do it anyone can.
I wasn't saying that Sam being a naughty girl was a bad thing, far from it.

 

Sounded naughty, I know, but I was being very sarcastic (i.e., you don't need a motor to turn me on...Prius Boy, etc.), making fun of the subject of this thread...
ACK, now I've got this...reputation...even funnier than the sarcasm
:embarassed: :tape2:

 

As someone who will be entering the dating scene again after ending a four year relationship, I'm actually not put off by the whole process. I've done the internet dating thing in the past (where I met my last relationship) and have met men through friends and dated that way also. I guess I'm pretty rare in that I really do enjoy first dates. Small talk or even deep talk is pretty easy for me and with someone new, you have every topic in the world explore. I don't even mind carrying the conversation on the first date, but someone like that is not likely to get a second date with me. Mental stimulation is the first turn on for me. And if that's not there... good-bye.

Dating isn't all wine and roses though; I definitely have had some interesting experiences (ohhh the stories!) and for the most part, I just let go of what didn't work. I think an open mind and self confidence play an important part too. At this point in my life, if someone likes me then great. If they don't, then that's fine too. They're not the partner, friend, aquaintance, whatever for me.

Oh and Sam... you are delightful! :high5: Sending some muffins your way!

 

See, told you that you were feisty!

 

That's the point I'm at in my life as well. I've dated so much in the last 6 years I should get some kind of certification as a professional. Now I just feel like going with the flow and if I find someone permanent I find someone permanent, if I don't I'm not going to let it bother me. I'll enjoy life regardless.

 

Thanks, eclect, so are you! Same here with the stories from internet dating - crazy days!

:hungry: muffins yum...

 

That's where I was at when I met my husband. I had reconciled that I'd never care enough about someone to spend the rest of every day of my life with them and was comfortable that I'd be simply dating my whole life. There are times when I'd get melancholy about it, but 99% of the time I was ok w/ it. That's the confidence part I was talking about. Someone that's comfortable being in their own place, by themselves, is more appealing than those that "need" someone else. I dated a needy guy and it was a huge energy draw on me. Soooooooo stressful and energy sucking. I'm getting hives just thinking about it. (that's the sick emoticon for those of you who are unsure)

 

If you get paid for it, then you can claim to be a professional. And they actually have a title for it, too.