Teenagers: Dating vs. Hooking Up

Would you ever consider going through a purity ball with your daughter. A yale and columbia study showed that 88% of all pledgers break the vow before marriage, but hell doesn't hurt to try, right?

 

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The studies also show a higher rate of oral and anal sex and that pledgers have much lower usage of condoms or other forms of birth/STD control. Now whether that is due to the pledge process or just that the type of parent that would take their child to a pledge ball also tends to be the kind that doesn't teach them anything about sex or birth control remains to be proven. What is proven is that they don't work for the intended purpose.

 

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With an attitude like that, we definiteley are going to fall. Wow, I've not heard such a pathetic attitude in a long time. I'm 22 and have never even come close to having sex, that's waiting for my wife and only my wife.

Life for kids has certainly changed, but with good parenting it is possible to prevent sexual perversion (sex with anyone other than your spouse). Teach self-respect, positive self-image, ove, and have strong family rules (but don't be a dictator).

We PRIUS owners are helping change the world with our cars, we as human beings can do the same with our values.

 

You ever noticed that ever since there was mainstream music on the radio, whether from the 50's, 60's, 70's or today it usually has a common topic, and it is primarily about getting laid or wanting to get laid. The terminology is the only thing that has changed. No I am no longer a teen i am 29, but my wife is 24 and we have been together since she was 17, so I have known about the personal lives of all of her friends for quite some time, and it's the same as when I was in school.

The wife also says that teenage girls mainly give BJ's to guys that they are wanting to date, because they want him to like her better than other girls. They only give up everything else to guys that they think are commited to them.

 

Well, as a "teen" who graduated high school in 2007, I can say that 1. I have no idea why this thread was brought back....
2. Most people I meet are more interested in "hooking up" than dating. I also agree with the point that girls are dressing sluttier and "promiscuous" was it? haha...It has become harder and harder to find an honest girl who wants to just have fun and no pressure or strings attached. Man, I sound like a 40 year old man more than a 19 year old guy, damn Prius is having negative effects on me.jk

But I do have to say I know 4 girls my age that are pregnant, only 1 knows the father and he's stickin around, the others dont have a clue.....:bolt:My guess is a byproduct of alcohol and "hooking up"

 

this thread has become interesting reading....

but stats say kids are having less sex and i am around 4 teens or just past (17, 18, 20 and 22) and they say that there is less sex going on because of fear of pregnancy or diesease, but as TJ alluded to, they also dont think that oral is considered as "real sex" either ....

must be nice!!... where were all these gir?!!...

i mean... well, i am sure i mean something

 

Why was I born into the wrong age?

My son is 15, 16 in a fortnight and I have seen no sign that he is having anywhere near as much sex as I had at his age.
I was never home, I would walk to a local park to hang out with mates or I'd ride my bike or catch a bus the 8km to my girlfriends house where, well you can fill in the blanks.
My son comes straight home from school each afternoon, he more often than not brings home a friend or 2 and they play Xbox games until tea (evening meal) time, then the mates go home or they might stay the night on Fridays. If he or any of his friends are having sex it must be at lunch times.

 

I know I need not say this, BUT...

ITS THEIR LIFE. They WILL screw up, and figure out how to get thru it. Remember, just because you don't agree with their decision, dosen't mean they(or you) are wrong.

 

If you haven't done a good job of parenting, including sex education, well before the teenage years, it's too late.

 

After about a year of being a really sulky 13 year old who wouldn't talk to me AT ALL, my 14 year old daughter has now started sharing lots of stuff with me, including things about her friends and their boyfriends, what they are learning in sex ed, etc. etc. I know who smokes, who may have tried drugs, whose parents drink too much, etc. AND IT IS SCARING THE SHIT OUT OF ME.

I am glad I now have some idea of what is going on in their moussed up little heads but jeez louise. My daughter seems to be doing OK but I believe me, I am reinforcing responsible behavior every chance I get.

My oldest daughter (17) is pretty serious and will be a late bloomer in the romance department. She hates drugs and drinking and I don't have to worry about her now. What I worry about is when she is thrown into an environment where she is surrounded by people doing all the stuff she doesn't approve of (namely, college). Oh, well, it's always something.

 

At some point you just have to push the babies out of the nest and see if they can fly... or if they'll just fall to be eaten by the neighbors cat.

 

Be sure to talk, and to LISTEN... and for crying out loud, do NOT jump in with "you'd better not be doing..."

It's much easier to keep the lines of communication open, than it is to fix them.

Oh, and Pat, you might ASK your son about sexual activity among his peers... have that talk about responsibility, respect, and being safe from disease/early fatherhood.

 

Oh yeah, and today I found out who is cutting herself and who is bipolar and is doing much better since he's on medication.

 

Yeah, it can be kinda scary knowing who's up to what, but think of it from your child's point of view. Things are much different now - more and earlier sexual activity, easier access to a wider variety of drugs. Kids need most of all someone they trust to talk to. If it's not the parent, it'll be someone else, who may or may not have their best interests in mind.

I hope they don't read this and I have to explain myself, but my two teens are much better behaved than I was at their age, and I turned out alright. Mostly.

 

Hey I disagree. There were plenty of girls that were less sexually inhibited then as well. History is cyclical with each generation searching their identities. Parents should remember their own sexual experiences and not delude themselves into thinking there is more promiscuity now than before. Communication with your kids, being available to them even when they know all the answers, letting them know they are important even when they are trying to convince you how cool a tattoo python would look from their neck to their feet, a you say....lets put it on hold till your done with college. And...its hard to expect young people aren't going to experiment. You do want them experience life, but its difficult! But calling girls sluts when they have these experiences..... I do not know, never seemed right to me.
BTW, I have great memories in my VW bug...I was a little older..I cherish those memories...what a car!

 

Oh man! Yea, the VW bugs had those great stirrups in the back seat...


Tom