12V system dies after turning car off. at random urgent 900 miles from home)

Hi folks,
well I got to Madras last night (yes the totality was amazing!!!) shut off my car and in the morning my 12V system was dead. I was pretty sure my battery wasn't dead, and I was right.
Here's the mystery, I opened the hatch from the inside with the fishing line, I wired into the emergency open thing and when I got to the back of the car even before I I could mess with the battery cable the car turned on. this happened twice of the like 6 times. the other four times I just barley touch the small cable plugged into the 12V fuse terminal on the battery and the car turns back on.
( I mean with turn on the open door light and well the alarm flashing) then I can start the car no problem and it's perfectly fine till I turn off the car.
anybody have any idea what could be causing this, I took the small 12v + in and out and I dun think that is it perse, it seems stanger than that.
Help I really don't want to leave town with this unresolved, but I gotta get back to LA.

terramir
PS this is a brand new bosch battery and it's not the battery it's not being drained!!!

 

I already replugged them I can't vouch for the 12V small one being intact inside the connector. but the large one definetly is firm inside the connector I dun dare pull on the small one in case it tears out I can't fix that here.
btw what is the small positive wire for??????

 

I found out something, it seems like the entire positive is loose on the 12V bosch terminal and it seems like it's a little deformed I think I'm gonna have to create a metal sleeve to fix this permanently. well wish me luck getting home. maybe I could use some aluminum foil folded multiple times for a jury rigged fix unless I could find something else I might have to hit the dollar tree and see if I can find a clamp I can destroy I might be able to use this as a shim for now.
terramir