Gotta love some people...

I really hate online dating. First of all the TV commercials promote "happily ever after" without the reality of real life. I wish they would show the real **** that happens in life... the drunk spouse who did everything short of getting arrested, the debate over leaving the seat up or down (I had sons - I learned to make sure I looked beforehand), the heated discussions over cleaning the house, etc....

A friend told me to try one site as she had "luck" with it. No luck so far as I have a pretty direct profile - after 25 years of marriage it is safe to say I said what I like and what I won't put up with. My profile, my rules, take it or leave it.

Had someone contact me, start the questions of "getting to know you", found out he recently bought a car and I congratulated him on his new car purchase, (to protect the innocent, I will say it was not a hybrid and was American made) and he asked me the fateful question:

"What kind of car did you buy?"

My answer resulted in the "deal breaker!"

(Usually it is the fact I own horses that scare them away - after all, as a recent share on my FB wall was a sign that said something to the effect of "I ride horses which means I have pitchforks, can haul and stack haybales and can scream at a half-ton animal after being kicked." I might add, "after I was tossed and broke my back in two spots (bad but not as bad as it could have been) I got back on the horse because I couldn't let her win." I think the ER doc was ready to prescribe some behavioral meds to me when he heard I actually got back on.)

This is the first time a Prius has protected me from a disaster in the making.

After my "what I purchased post" (and it was one word, without the selling points or any description - just mentioned the name of the type of car), I got an emotional, almost ranting email back about how he "was intimidated by my profile, I am way too active for him, he likes traveling and relaxing, works a lot of hours, and has a new home and car but his ex left him financially stretched and it took a long time to get back to a real life." Wait, what? Where did this come from?!
(This selection of an emotional rant brought to you by someone who really purchased a Prius. And likes it. )

Had he been in the driveway I am sure he would have left skidmarks as he ranted and retreated. BTW, I never met him in person. Thank Gawd!

That being said, I am going to try to improve my MPGs this morning on my way to work, get a huge cup of coffee the way I like it and figure out where I am running this evening. I have better things to worry about.

Gotta love some people - my attitude is if you can't take the heat, don't play near the fire.

Enjoy your day... I know I am going to enjoy mine....

 

I was surprised how fast he bolted! LOL! That's quite fine by me!

 

Love it! I am enjoying a second large poison coffee in my break room and still laughing to myself.

 

I liked reading the story! Thanks for sharing - it gives me hope...

 

Congratulations on your success... I made the mistake of compromising myself and accepting unacceptable behavior until it just about killed me. A bit older and wiser now, I feel like my statement earlier - "if one cannot take the heat, don't stand near the fire." I am not changing my ways for anyone these days, which is why I found the reaction from the online person humorous. "Too active?" Oh well! Best wishes in your search for perfection, dude!

Happily, I am free of the emotional crap now from my ex and family said I look about ten years younger. That is what happens when you are suddenly free of 155 lbs of dead weight... I wish him no ill will but am enjoying my freedom to do as I wish (including playing my music in my car without someone complaining about my selection).

But sometimes, it is nice to have someone to have coffee and conversation with - the ex was too much into booze to the point he drank on the way home from work... while driving. Just hope he straightens himself out before he hurts someone - a sad part of alcoholism is the alcoholic has to want the help... I got out and far away before I had to be a part of that. I was "alone" for years in my marriage but now feel surrounded by friends.

Off my soapbox for now... and looking forward to a date tomorrow.

 

Thanks for the pep talk! Haven't been dating since the Middle Ages so the whole environment is very new to me...

This online guy was definitely not for me. My horses (and my Prius - got to include her! ) come first.

Luckily tomorrow's date is "interested" in learning more about horses but I think he would have been intimidated by 1100 lbs of ex racehorse launching into the air like a Macy's Thanksgiving Day balloon because the octane in her grain was a bit high... my brother, who is used to seeing equine antics from the apartment window, asked what the Thoroughbred's issue was - he understood when I said, "Been in the garage too long - needs to blow the engine out..." This as I popped a piece of gum in my mouth and waited for the supercharged horse to come back to earth... it is not a life for the faint of heart! Her kicks hurt!

Yet, I have a therapy miniature who has done volunteer work for various agencies for 18 years and has gone where no other horse has gone - on elevators, nursing homes, schools, stores, riding in my Jeep Cherokee (long ago), being on TV in a mall to raise funds for animal related charities (she's "trailer trained")... so I just treat the six examples of live horsepower in the backyard as individuals.

Gawd, this has been a night of getting on my soapbox. Thanks to all for reading, replying and understanding.

 

Love the advice and the positive outlook story... I do not believe in happy ever after, yet. Nor am I the type to be doing a lot of "test drives."

In the car world, this classic was one previous and only owner (Wait, what?!), and very low mileage.

Booty calls are for a younger generation...and good Gawd, if the bridge doesn't have a good lift system after test driving the other aspects of a good drive, I am choosing an alternate route and vehicle! Hence my post in the "Whoopee" thread... oh my!

 

And still two years away from the half century mark - oh crap, the trouble I can potentially get into! Andy Rooney said it best!

And where is my Prius? (Safely parked, "asleep" until tomorrow)...

 

I am all for "ask, believe & receive" - hence, my green Prius. Two years ago I looked for two signs on my way to work of the course life would take and each sign would mean something- a green Prius with CT plates and a Mayflower moving truck.... both were in traffic in upstate NY.