Living together before you get married. Yay or nay...

yhea thats better
you never now it maybe have to be recalled

i also say yes.
currently i dont even think about getting married..
only troubles.. just life togheter and be nice.

 

My parents did not live together (AFAIK). My wife and I did not live together before marriage and neither did any of my 4 brothers and sisters. My wife and I are the only ones of my and her siblings that are still together with their original spouse and celebrate our 35th anniversary this year. As another thread stated, we feel like we have broken the law of averages.

Of four kids, my two daughters chose to follow their Christian faith and were married before living with their husbands. My oldest son is living with his SO and her 7 year old daughter and are expecting their first child together in October. My youngest son and his wife chose to follow their faith to the point of remaining virgins until marriage and were just married this past December.

It will be interesting to see how each of these marriages/co-habitate work out.

 

Few of our parents were likely to have lived togethor. It just wasn't done back then.
I lived with my wife for a few years, had a short break, then after getting back togethor (and yes, travelling togethor harmoniously), we made the leap and have been married for 10 years.

Living togethor IMHO is a key trial to whether you can stay togethor and raise kids.
I think those that don't are in the minority these days. Much like pre-marital sex was the norm and now has become a SMALL minority, I think co-habitation will become the norm as well. There is simply no better way for couples to sort through the skeletons in the closets that might not otherwise come up.

 

My parents didn't...that would have been frowned upon in Catholic Ireland back in the 50s
Myself and my now Wife did,

"If you want to know me....come live with me"

 

My parents did not. I refused to live with my husband until marriage. Not to excited to see if my kids choose that path - I hope not. There are many reasons not to test drive anything. I say if you don't want a prius, why drive it to begin with?

BTW- not to start something but I am of the opinion that living together benefits the man while taking something away from the woman.

 

This is such a great suggestion, I couldn't agree more.

As for living together? Heck yes.

 

:nono: Oh my, only a man would ask such a question. My reply would be why have sex when you can just cuddle? :rofl:

In all honestly most women (not all) want to get married and will eventually get very tired of being with you if you are not willing to take that step. Marriage is about having a sense of security and a sense of consistancy. You can just live with anyone, you can only marry on person (at least one at a time in the US). It is a commitment that is not easily undone. Many women are just built to appreciate that kind of commitment. It makes a difference in how we feel about our relationships.

 

Well,you can have my kids Tony as a "loaner" to see if you want kids!!
A 10yr old boy and a 6yr old girl [A gentleman's family]
But beware..my 6yr old never shuts up..PM me for Shipping and Handling details

 

I say definitely travel together preferably to a foreign country. The longer the better, before living together before getting married. A lot can be exposed about the other person, their behavior, how they handle a situation, how they treat others, their habits, and how they conduct themselves.

But,....., if you're not married yet, don't. Its expensive and a commitment that could tax your life. If you're married, try not to get divorced. Its expensive to regain your freedom.

 

Tax benefits.

My mom and dad probably did not. He turned out to be intolerable, and she divorced him when I was one year old. I don't know if my mom lived with her second husband before marrying him. He turned out to be an alcoholic and she divorced him when I was 8. My mom lived with her third husband for many years and they only got married much later for the tax benefits.

I think a trial period is a good idea. You might think you want a Tesla Roadster, but without driving it first you'll never find out that the seats are uncomfortable. I think both parties benefit by knowing what they're getting into.

 

I haven't gotten married to my GF, because if we had, I'd probably have divorced her by now. :madgrin:

Actually, I don't know if the vacation together is the best test of compatibility; we get along great during vacations, but get into fights over cleaning the house and other mundane stuff.

 

Excellent point, now lets get the lawmakers on board...