DICTIONARY FOR WOMEN'S PERSONAL ADS

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(livelychick @ Feb 12 2007, 08:33 AM) [snapback]388840[/snapback]</div>

I'd take that with a grain of salt. Often they're (or at least I) am thinking about something you wouldn't appreciate, so it's easier to answer nothing. Then there's the cases where the train of thought is just wandering around and if you interrupt, we don't really remember where we were, so it's hard to give a definite answer. So it's more of a case of "nothing important", as opposed to really "nothing".

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(nerfer @ Feb 12 2007, 11:36 AM) [snapback]388895[/snapback]</div>

I don't agree with that one, necessarily. In the first place, meditating and a wandering mind are two different things entirely. In the second place, and this is from Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus among others, men and women communicate and deal with their problems a lot differently. Women, in general, need to talk out things and men, in general, don't. Men are more likely to internalize and women are more likely to do the opposite. When my girlfriend asks me what I'm thinking I can usually tell her and then she laughs and says that I'm funny but I'm far more content to just be in the moment and enjoy what it has to offer.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(daniel @ Feb 12 2007, 10:10 AM) [snapback]388854[/snapback]</div>

I bet you triple-checked this one before hitting ADD REPLY; talk about pressure.

Tom

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(priusguy04 @ Feb 12 2007, 10:25 AM) [snapback]388887[/snapback]</div>

Well, we got that point with your overblown response to the minor correction. Granted, the whole i-before-e thing is a fairly common and easy-to-make mistake. But if you care about your appearance, you should care about your spelling and grammar.

Keep in mind that for some of us, it's impossible to turn off our mental spell-checker. It's not like we're going through your posts deliberately looking for a spelling mistake to chastise you with, but they just jump out at us, and either we bite our tongue, or we remind the person, like telling them they have parsley stuck on their tooth. But there are people, like yourself, opposed to such corrective behavior, so we've learned to bear it even if it bothers us. I've only corrected a person once on PriusChat, and that was for a well-spoken poster who somehow confused "allot" (to allocate or designate), with "a lot" (many). I know there are "a lot" of people who make this mistake, but in people who take the time for proper grammar and spelling, I think they'd appreciate knowing their mistake. For years I misspelled definite, until somebody pointed it out to me, and now I spell it correctly.

Now, I am not a person who feels that colloquialisms and common speech are to be avoided, indeed many grammar rules are rather arbitrary (like ending a sentence with a preposition, or to not split an infinitive simply because you can't do that in Latin, and Latin was considered a superior language in Victorian times). But everybody should be able to spell the common words correctly. Even H/-\x0rs follow their own grammar and spelling rules. Taking a minute to look over your post will add to its readability by others, and that's the whole point of posting something, to be understood. I'm not sure about Internet Explorer, but Firefox underlines the misspelled or unknown words immediately, so it's easy to notice and correct as needed.

 

I WISH I could meditate. It's a discipline certainly. I have tried doing it and it takes a tremendous amount of energy to blank my mind. I'm an anxious sort w/ OCD, which doesn't help at all. I've been trying to meditate every night in bed before going to sleep. I lay there and focus on relaxing my body. It's amazing that you can be lying in bed thinking that you're relaxed until you focus on REALLY relaxing your body. Then you find out just how tense you are. (I found Yoga helpful with a technique that you start with your toes and work your way up to the brain, all along the channel, relaxing specific muscle groups) Then I work on my mind. That's truly the hard part. My brain is always racing about.

But, on to the original thread content. I do wonder why it seems men can never, ever find anything. It happens w/ my husband all the time. Last night, he stood up looking for his glasses all perplexed and they were right (literally) in front of him on the table. Maybe I enable him by pointing these things out to him?!?!?

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(priusguy04 @ Feb 12 2007, 11:25 AM) [snapback]388887[/snapback]</div>

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<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(nerfer @ Feb 12 2007, 11:57 AM) [snapback]388907[/snapback]</div>

"...we bite our tongues," - plural form.

Tom

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(priusguy04 @ Feb 12 2007, 08:15 AM) [snapback]388821[/snapback]</div>

Go to the Tools menu (no, I don't mean go to your local Home Depot). Select Options, then hit the "Advanced" tab (And no, I don't mean get a diet soft drink). "Check spelling as you type" is right there.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(SSimon @ Feb 12 2007, 12:00 PM) [snapback]388909[/snapback]</div>

It's not that difficult to learn. Find a comfortable seated position. A quiet place is best. Some people sit cross-legged on the floor. Cover yourself with a blanket if you want. If your knees are higher than your hips when you sit like that get a cushionto raise your hips. Others have back injuries or other issues that require them to sit in a chair. Whatever, just sit with your back erect, put your hands in your lap or on your knees, close your eyes and focus on your breath, just paying attention to what it's doing rather than trying to change it but learn to breathe through your nose. Then, once your comfortable don't move or open your eyes. Resist urges to move a finger or change positions or scratch because those are often tricks that the mind uses to get you to give it some distraction. The mind will fight like hell to accept this period of nonreaction but if you can learn to ignore it you're on your way. Try to sit like that for five minutes without moving or opening your eyes. Once you can do it for five minutes, you'll be able to lengthen it. You can't do this lying down because you'll lose consciousness. An unconscious mind can't meditate.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(JackDodge @ Feb 12 2007, 10:47 AM) [snapback]388901[/snapback]</div>

You ask a guy what he's thinking about as he's staring into space after a day at work, and I don't think he's in a state of meditation. I think he's unwinding, thinking things over as they come to him (kind of daydreaming), and doesn't feel a need to share that process with somebody else, especially if that's going to interrupt what he was going over in his mind. Maybe you're more open with sharing inconsequential thoughts, just as importantly, your friends are open to that. And occasionally, his thoughts might even be considered objectionable and he doesn't want to come up with a lie or a new thought, especially if you start following it back with a line of questioning, starting with "why did you think of that?". So there's multiple possibilities here, to me, other than his mind is a complete blank slate.

Okay, my posts here are on two completely different subjects, neither of which was the original subject. So I better get back to work, and leave this alone for a bit.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(JackDodge @ Feb 12 2007, 01:10 PM) [snapback]388915[/snapback]</div>

I've learned a wonderful breathing technique from Yoga. Whenever I try to clear my mind, this is the breathing that I use. Are you saying that instead of trying to "blank" my mind, I should just focus on that breathe? Then, subsequently, are you saying that one I can train my mind to focus on my breathe, my mind will clear itself or be easier to clear? If so, that sounds much easier than what I was doing which was to focus on clearing my mind which would often overtake the breathing techniques that I was using. I know how powerful meditation and yoga can be in healing the physical, emotional and mental being. If I can make the process a little easier to adhere to, all the better. Thanks for the tips.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(qbee42 @ Feb 12 2007, 11:10 AM) [snapback]388911[/snapback]</div>

Good catch, I deserve that!

Your Little Red Riding Hood story got a little hard to follow, but it is interesting. Somebody put a lot of time into that.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(nerfer @ Feb 12 2007, 11:57 AM) [snapback]388907[/snapback]</div>

I'm not as psychotic about spelling and punctuation as I used to be. I broke up with a boy in eighth grade because of his inability to "right" a sentence correctly.

As I've gotten older, I've stopped pointing it out to people. A typo in a post, I can handle. A typo in a business or professional setting, I can't handle. I will point it out to a proprietor of a business.

Five typos in one post does not indicate a typo--they indicate the poster has a different typing filter than I do, or perhaps knows not what they do. Regardless, my pointing it out to another adult is probably not going to change his practice. It's probably part of who he is, just as my being blessed with good grammar and spelling is part of who I am. (And I do type in colloquialisms on occasion--"probably" is my favorite.) After all, I say "ain't" and "reckon" and "yonder," and I'm not sure if those will ever NOT be part of my speech, even if someone corrected me on them.

However, if someone has spinach in his teeth, I will tell him immediately because he can rectify that situation easily.

However, I feel your pain. It bothers me every time I see it. I swallow it down, then move on.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(priusguy04 @ Feb 12 2007, 05:15 AM) [snapback]388821[/snapback]</div>

This handy program should solve that problem for your IE 7:

ieSpell

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(livelychick @ Feb 12 2007, 06:33 AM) [snapback]388840[/snapback]</div>

Most definitely not. The Budddha-nature of the self is enjoying the beer. The mind is in nirvana, completely at one with the universe. However, I am not refering to myself because I don't believe any of it: Not the meditation, or the nirvana, or the supposed differences between men and women (other than physiological). I am refering to the hypothetical man who you see apparently thinking about nothing.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(livelychick @ Feb 12 2007, 06:33 AM) [snapback]388840[/snapback]</div>

The other possibility is that he's actually composing a pornographic novel, and so when asked what he was thinking about, is compelled to answer "Nothing."

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(qbee42 @ Feb 12 2007, 08:56 AM) [snapback]388906[/snapback]</div>

I triple check all my posts. I still make mistakes and typos. But fewer of them get through than otherwise would. This also means I post in fewer threads than I'd otherwise have time for. But I'd rather post one clear and comprehensible post than three incoherent ones.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(nerfer @ Feb 12 2007, 01:09 PM) [snapback]388955[/snapback]</div>

Glad you enjoyed the catch. It was meant in fun, and to point out the perils of throwing stones when living in glass houses. I'm always nervous about posting corrections; that's when major brain farts creep in and I make a loud splatting noise falling flat on my face.

The Ladle Rat Rotten Hut writer had waaaaayyy tooooo much free time. Having a slightly inebriated person read the story out loud helps with understanding.

Tom

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(livelychick @ Feb 12 2007, 01:34 PM) [snapback]388976[/snapback]</div>

Sticklers unite!

Tom

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(SSimon @ Feb 12 2007, 12:47 PM) [snapback]388942[/snapback]</div>

Yes, focus on the breath. It's not about shutting off the mind, per se, because that would be lethal. Rather, it's about quieting the mind and developing a nonreactive state. An itch comes along and rather than scratch it, you ignore it and it goes away. One time, I was in to a meditation for about ten minutes and an itch started up. I sort of observed it and I slowly forgot about it. A while later, perhaps twenty minutes in, I got another itch in a different place and before I focused on it I thought 'wait a minute, what happened to the first one?' You can't really blank your mind, just get it to quiet down and stop reacting. The breath is a great thing to focus on and it's one of the key aspects to long meditations such as the king of meditation, Vipassana.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(livelychick @ Feb 12 2007, 03:34 PM) [snapback]388976[/snapback]</div>

...and THIS, is precisely why like-minded women should read the book series: "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff"...

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(JackDodge @ Feb 12 2007, 03:06 PM) [snapback]389008[/snapback]</div>

I noticed you mentioned the itch thing in your first post. It didn't go unrecognized. This happens to me ALL the time when I try to settle my mind. I always end up scratching it because it's so intense and then it reappears in another locale. I had NO idea this was related and that my brain was trying to override my itent. I'll have to one up it now.

You sound seasoned so I'll try it your way and see how it goes.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(SSimon @ Feb 12 2007, 02:19 PM) [snapback]389014[/snapback]</div>

An itch can't hurt you and ignoring it won't damage you in any way. I know, it's really annoying but if you can learn to ignore it, the benefit is huge. Once you learn to not react to an itch, you've taken an important step to controlling your own mind. That itch is a symptom of an unruly mind; once you learn to ignore them, they don't occur very often.

Once you get accomplished enough to sit for an hour or so, you may want to move up to the big leagues:

http://www.dhamma.org/

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(JackDodge @ Feb 12 2007, 03:33 PM) [snapback]389028[/snapback]</div>

Unruly mind? Me? Nah.....

Just one riddled with obsessive compulsive disorder and anxiety. No problem there (sarcasm)! Trust me, I'm usually more pissed of at my mind than not.

In a large way, this is what led me to Yoga and the attempt to become aware of my breathe. Breathing is the manner in which I try to curb my unruly mind without medication. I was on meds and they made me lethargic and hazed over. Now, I'm just itchy.

Thanks for the link. There's a center that's not too far from my house. And, it's halfway to Galena, Illinois which I like to visit on occassion.