eHarmony failure

Daniel, I learned long ago that it's often better to be happy, than to be right.

As an incredibly opinionated, stubborn, forceful person, I've learned that it is NOT MY JOB to correct other people's misconceptions/mistakes/thinking. Especially people that I would like to be friends with. If you want to get your "correct" viewpoint out there, write a book. If you want friends/lovers, suck it up, and let them be happy.

I have way more friends now than I ever did, and I only occasionally get a little twitchy when they spout off insane drivel.

 

Not only that, it should be required high school reading for all men. It explains why jerks like Jayman and I get the girls, and exactly what the difference is between a "jerk", a "real man", and a "nice guy".

Too many "nice guys" like Daniel end up jaded and bitter about women when they don't have to be.

I think I had more in common with the "bad boy" category. In college, I was the dude who usually showed up to class late, wearing my sportsbike leather jacket and lugging my helmet around.

I rarely called girls back because I was too busy working, doing homework, or out whizzing through the canyons at insane speeds with my friends. My answering machine always had calls on it from some girl or another.

Once I even changed my message to "Don't know who you are... don't care. Leave a message." I thought it was funny. I had over a dozen messages the next day, you just can't make this kind of thing up.

On nice days I usually left my helmet locked on my bike, at least three times I came back from class to find phone numbers in it.

I got a ticket once from "student parking enforcement" with the girl's phone number on it. "Call me tonight! XO XO XO". FFS. Seriously?

I've had more girls ask for a ride than I could count. One time I was at a gas station, and a hot mom asked me for a quick ride right in front of her teenage daughter.

Edit: Moral of this story? Get a bike Daniel!

 

Wow. So it sounds like gals are as f'd up as guys.

Your experiences can be switched with mine. I dated a guy for a few years only to find out his family had a pre-arranged wedding planned for him. In retrospect, this demise of our relationship was the best thing that could happen to me because he liked guns, not forks.

 

Please allow me to add some background listening to this thread.

 

That's not good background music to this thread. THIS is good background music to this thread.

Why can't you have your cake and eat it, too?
Why believe in things that make it tough on you?
Why scream and cry when you know it's through?
Why fall in love when there's better things to do?

 

i am more in the mind of eleanor rigby.

 

Wondering where all the lonely people came from?

 

Actually I consider myself more of an donkey than a jerk, but whatever

 

But you do it with such charm.

Tom

 

and, where do they all belong? i think we're all lonely in our own way, no matter how many relationships we have.

 

No, not really

 

I've heard that before. Knew one fella who was not religious but had put christian on his profile. He was really really annoyed with all the christian "church goer girls" who seemed interested in him from there.

I've heard this before, the site is christian leaning and anyone who marks atheist is auto booted. Sorry Daniel! I've tried other sites as well with no luck. It's so bad at this point that I had even paid ahead on one of them and canceled the account anyway. It was more depressing having an "active" profile that was leading nowhere than to just take a loss.

Lets not forget to mention the little fact of how picky you are Daniel... In many ways, you and I are in the same boat mister! We are holding out for something special and frankly, we are bringing some of the loneliness that comes with that on ourselves.

(Speaking for myself here because it would be rude to speak for others) It's not that I can't get ANYONE to date me. It's that I'm looking for someone genuine, intelligent, spiritual, within 15 or so years of my age, with similar life goals and values, who I find attractive. I live in a college/retirement town with a lower than average divorce rate. No wonder I can't find people to date!

+ 1000 You're so right Rae!!!!!

Hmmm... maybe I should read that book. I suspect it has to do with women being attracted to confident, genuine men. I've found that something that is totally sexy when one man does it, feels dorky when another man imitates. The moral of the story ( in my mind anyway) is to be yourself!

I've noticed for myself, when I am comfortable enough around someone to just be myself and not care what they think ( interpreted as a bitch by some) I tend to attract men, but when I'm worried about what they think and how they are going to perceive me, they seem less interested. Maybe that's why I can seem to attract men I'm not interested in all day long ,but if I find a man attractive, he almost runs the other way? Either that or Daniel and I are taking the same repela-potion.

 

Um.... They do make 3-wheeler motorcycles, if you are interested. Here is a link to a site that covers trikes: Three Wheel Motorcycles,Three Wheelers,Trike Reviews

There seems to be a growing community of trike fans. I was at a Holiday Inn recently and a L.A. Harley club was staying over and there were 4 trikes parked with the 2-wheeled Harleys. One even had a trailer that was hooked up trimmed as a '57 Chevy Police car (black and white paint with a red light on the top of the trailer)....

I would venture you would get some notices.... You might have to bite your tongue on some of your perspectives, but think of it as a challenge of sorts.

 

If it's for cataract correction... DO IT. It's a breeze and you'll have the eyes of a 4 y.o. again. Had both of mine done two years ago and I'd recommend it to anyone.

 

That strikes me as dishonest, and more than a little discriminatory. Sure, the users can be 'discriminating' - aka 'fussy', but that's different. Is a christians-only site really any different than 'muslims only' or 'whites only'?

 

Hmm.

Lets put the question to Mick Jagger:

(Voted the #1 hit of all time...a universal truth?)

 

that sounds rough, all the best man!