How is Starbug?

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Starbug @ Jul 5 2006, 01:22 PM) [snapback]281600[/snapback]</div>

Thanks--it helps when we're not trying to kill each other...

Does you mom have a will? If not, maybe if she says she's having one made, saying she knows no one lives forever, and she wants to save you any hassles whenever her time comes...and then get a lawyer who'll say he's running a two-for-one deal .Seriously, though--it really doesn't cost much more for a couple to have them done together, since they are generally mirror images, kinda, with everything left to surviving spouse and then subsidiary legatees (like kids!), with the only differences, perhaps, being that maybe your mother wants you to have stuff like her wedding ring right off. Sometimes backing into things is easier that going head on....

Keep keeping your chin up, Starbug!

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Starbug @ Jul 4 2006, 04:30 PM) [snapback]281161[/snapback]</div>

You may be kidding, but it's a good idea. Nobody lives forever. Or perhaps your dad thinks he'll never die! Because even if he believes he'll recover from the cancer, sooner or later he's going off, just like all of us, and if he doesn't have a will, then... well, I don't know what happens.

The tack to take with him is not "The cancer's gonna kill you, so make your will," but rather, "Everyone, young or old, needs to have a will because you could get run over by a bus crossing the street."

Families are really messed up things.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Rufaro @ Jul 5 2006, 09:06 PM) [snapback]281801[/snapback]</div>

Yes, my mom has a will. But he still fights it. He doesn't like planning for the future. Eventually, I think there are some things that we will just have to force him to get in order. He is frusterating!

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(daniel @ Jul 5 2006, 10:46 PM) [snapback]281853[/snapback]</div>

One of the things my dad often says is "we are all terminal. We just don't know when." Oddly, though this acknowledges that he is not immortal, it still doesn't make him prepare for the future (be it dieing of cancer or of old age). And lest we all forget, he's "going to be cured of his cancer in just a few months, so no need for wills etc." *cough*BS*cough* So he exhists knowing he will one day of old age, and thinking that he will never die. Like I said, he's very frusterating. *bangs head on desk*

 

I don't know what to say but Good luck, and Hang in there.

 

Angela, you are in a very tough situation. stick to your beliefs. in the end, the only person you need to answer to is yourself. if in your heart, you are doing the right thing, accept that.

 

henry, sorry to hear about your mom. it makes it so tough when the decline is so gradual. my mom went thru continous bouts of pneumonia, flus and colds for the 6 months before her death. my thoughts are with both of yous

 

henry, sorry to hear about your mom. it makes it so tough when the decline is so gradual. my mom went thru continous bouts of pneumonia, flus and colds for the 6 months before her death. my thoughts are with both of yous

 

"My mother died this morning " Henry my condolences. Sorry to hear that. Not what any person needs. My thoughts are with you. Frank

 

Henry, sorry for your loss. as hard as it is to accept, at least you can take comfort in knowing that she is no longer in pain

 

Henry: My condolences.

Daniel

 

Oh my god, Henry! I am sooooo sorry about your loss. I've been busy job-hunting, so I've not logged in for a while. My condolences to you and your family. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.